If you’re an introvert, a cocktail party is probably your idea of hell; people you don’t know, “light conversation” (small talk) and it’s socially draining. I was at a cocktail party recently, thinking about the Johari window as describing what was happening. Johari’s window can give an interesting insight into how introverts can improve their effectiveness in business. How will you open your window?
What is Johari’s window?
Johari’s window helps people better understand their relationship with themselves and others. It was created by Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingram in 1955 (Jo Hari comes from their names to create the model’s name).
There are four quadrants:
- Open: The things both you and others know about you.
- Hidden self: Things you know about yourself, but the others don’t.
- Blind self: You don’t know these things, although others around you do know them.
- Unknown: Things about you that neither you or the others around you know.
Uses of Johari window
f others understand you and you understand yourself you’re likely to be more effective in communicating/ being part of a team. Johari’s window shows how to do that.
What’s Johari’s window go to do with introverts?
Johari’s window is not a tool about introverts although there are some interesting links.
Johari’s window helps consider what’s known to self and what’s known to others. How far you choose to open either of these two quadrants is up to you. Consider:
- a cocktail party where you’re mingling with guests (suspend your disbelief, introverts do cocktail parties sometimes). How much you let into the “open” depends on you. Introverts will, in that scenario, tend to keep the “open window” quite closed.
- spending time with deep friends, there are fewer people around and this is where introverts are likely to let more into the open (opening the “open window”), so more is known about them.
You’ve achieved these two positions by controlling what others around you know about you, opening, or closing windows (quadrants).
Being more reflective.
If you, like many introverts, focus on being reflective rather than letting others understand you more, you increase the size of the “hidden self”. My challenge to you is, how does that help you perform with a team/ others around you?
There’s also a danger, I suspect that being too reflective when combined with being energised spending time on your own can lead to an unhappy place.
Increasing the “open” window.
The aim of the tool is to better understand your relationship with themselves and others; this involves enlarging the open window. Achieving this means allowing others to know more about you.
But wait, done well you can also learn from their reactions, this can help you learn more about yourself as well; hence your blind quadrant shrinks.
How will you open your window?
- Can introverts be great leaders?
- Developing social confidence as an introvert.
- 7 Introvert life hacks (7 steps to overcome introvert challenges)
Or listening to
A discussion about confidence, with Jackie Perkins.